Transition ‘truths’: Feeling curious?

The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters,

but one who has insight draws them out.

Proverbs 20:5

Curiosity may have killed the cat, but curiosity can have life-giving results. Curiosity is not only useful when exploring new places or things, but it turns out that curiosity is a good way to explore ourselves as well. We see this particularly in relation to our feelings. Being curious about our feelings enables us to grow in our self-awareness; something which will be all too necessary for our family as we are thrust into a new culture and place, bringing with it a whole set of feelings.

Feelings in this case, are more than just a chemical reaction. They are bodily forms of knowledge.1 My main point is that feelings can function as sign posts. They can give us clues about what we are thinking and valuing. For example, feelings of anger may highlight that I feel like an injustice has been committed or they may point to a love that I didn’t know I have (or have to a such an intensity). Rather than quickly dismissing our anger, if we are curious about it we may learn new things about ourselves. Not only may we get more insight into the situation, but we can also learn about what we were thinking and valuing and we may even learn about what another person is thinking and valuing as well. Questions like, why did I react that way, or what does my anger tell me about ‘me’ may help draw out what is going on underneath or behind the scenes. Curiosity regarding our feelings can help shed light on who we are and what we love. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it can be a useful approach to growing in self-awareness.

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  1. For a concise summary of four current models on the interaction of feelings and thought, see Mark Wynn’s book Emotional Experience and Religious Understanding: Integrating Perception, Conception and Feeling, particularly p.107. 

Transition ‘truths’: Double vision

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One of the key applications from my time at St Andrews Hall (our CMS training earlier this year) was on the topic of journalling. I’ve been journalling for a number of years now. But this new insight was really helpful. The suggestion was to have two concurrent journals; one journal for what you observed on a particular day, the other journal for your state of mind, your feelings that day; basically where you were up to. The point is that our observations are affected by how we are feeling, how we are travelling.

Now this isn’t necessarily a new insight, but its easy to forget. The real value of this double journal (or you could just have both aspects in the one entry), comes from a distance. We won’t necessarily remember how we were feeling as we read back over our diary entry. But having insight into how we were going enables us to assess our observations and read them through the way we were feeling. Normally we associate double vision with blurriness and inaccuracy. But this kind of double vision actually aids the accuracy of our observations as we interrogate our own state of mind. The highs and lows of entering into a new culture will affect the way I observe things and the conclusions that I draw from those observations. Whether in the honeymoon phase of entering a new culture, or further down the track when home-sickness hits, this second journal (or recording feelings) may help me to read my own observations well.

Transition ‘truths’: Dry run move

Including next year, our family will have transitioned 5 times in 4 years. We will have moved intercity, interstate and soon overseas as well. Transition has become the new normal for this season of our family life. There are both joys and challenges. But particularly transition provides an opportunity to grow in self-awareness. We are thrust into new situations constantly and are learning much about ourselves (often painfully).

One of the benefits of our training in St Andrews Hall is that it can be seen as a dry run for next year. Moving interstate (while not as hard as moving overseas) still mimics that process for our family. Taking note of how Sam and I and the kids reacted and related will give us clues about what to watch out for. The way we solved things at St Andrews might provide good strategies to implement in Cambodia. Practice won’t make us perfect, but hopefully we’ll learn from our mistakes for next time. In that sense a ‘practice’ move is gold.

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First series heads up

The first series for this blog will be on self-awareness. We’ve seen the necessity of growing in our own self-awareness over the past few years; in ministry, study and transitions. However it’ll be vital as we arrive and settle into a new culture. So stay tuned for a self-awareness series, shortly.

I should also say that much of this series material has come from the wonderful mission teachers down at St Andrews Hall in Melbourne. Anything abnormal in these posts is my distortion on their wonderful work.